Zim GBC News | Gender and Community
BULAWAYO – A growing public conversation is challenging a common social practice, with many now calling for an end to the tradition of attending funerals empty-handed, arguing that it places an unfair burden on grieving families.
The debate, gaining traction on social media and in community discussions, contrasts the generosity typically shown at weddings with the often passive attendance at funerals. Proponents of change urge mourners to contribute materially or through labor to support bereaved families who face sudden, unplanned expenses.
“Why do we go to a wedding and give money to a couple that has been planning for their wedding for almost two years, yet, we go to a funeral expecting the bereaved to feed us yet they never planned for it?” questioned one Harare resident, Tendai Moyo, echoing a sentiment shared by many.
“This trend of expecting food from funerals you didn’t contribute to should stop.”
Advocates for this cultural shift suggest that support should be practical and can start from the moment a family is in crisis, even at the hospital, to help with accumulating bills. They propose a range of contributions, from monetary gifts and essential goods like vegetables, firewood, or mealie meal, to offering physical help with cooking, logistics, or transportation.
“This thing of showing love to the dead only when they die should STOP,” stated another community member, Chipo Ndlovu.
“Help should start from the hospital as there are bills there. If you can’t afford goods, ladies can help out in the kitchen and men can help with the fire and transportation. It’s about practical compassion.”
The movement is particularly focused on engaging younger generations, hoping they will be the catalysts for a lasting change in community norms. The underlying principle being promoted is one of mutual responsibility and empathy:
“Do unto others what you want done unto you.”
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