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In an era where many parents pride themselves on shielding their children from struggle, a growing chorus of voices is warning that this approach may be doing more harm than good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The well-intentioned mindset of “I don\u2019t want my child to suffer like I did” is backfiring, experts say, producing a generation ill-equipped to handle life\u2019s inevitable challenges.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Danger of Overprotection<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cSome parents think they\u2019re showing love by refusing to correct their children, avoiding discipline, or never saying \u2018No,\u2019\u201d says Dr. Evelyn Carter, a child psychologist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cBut what they\u2019re really doing is setting their kids up for failure.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This trend, often disguised as kindness, manifests in small but damaging ways\u2014parents who don\u2019t assign chores, who intervene at the first sign of discomfort, or who prevent their children from facing consequences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cLet him rest, he\u2019s just a child.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cLet her enjoy life, she\u2019s still young.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Statements like these may sound nurturing, but they rob children of crucial life skills, argues parenting coach Marcus Reid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cIf a child can\u2019t sweep a house today, how will they keep their own home clean tomorrow? If they can\u2019t handle correction now, how will they handle criticism in a job or marriage later?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Real World Doesn\u2019t Coddle<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Life is full of hardships\u2014rejection, failure, and moments when things don\u2019t go as planned. Parents who never allow their children to experience these challenges risk raising adults who crumble under pressure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWe\u2019re seeing young people who can\u2019t cope with a \u2018No,\u2019\u201d says Dr. Carter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhen life inevitably denies them something, they break. Some fall into depression. Others give up entirely.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A recent study from the Journal of Youth Development found that children who grow up without responsibilities or discipline struggle with resilience, problem-solving, and emotional regulation in adulthood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Discipline is Not Abuse\u2014It\u2019s Preparation<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cDiscipline is not wickedness. Correction is not hate. Chores are not punishment,\u201d Reid emphasizes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThey are training tools for life.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Teaching children responsibility\u2014how to clean, greet others respectfully, manage anger, and persevere through difficulty\u2014is one of the greatest gifts a parent can give.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThe goal shouldn\u2019t be to prevent all suffering,\u201d says Dr. Carter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cIt should be to equip children with the strength to overcome it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A Call for Change<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Instead of saying, \u201cI don\u2019t want my child to suffer like I did,\u201d Reid urges parents to reframe their mindset:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cI want my child to be stronger than I was.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That strength, he says, starts with discipline, responsibility, and allowing children to face manageable struggles now\u2014so they don\u2019t collapse later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cParenting isn\u2019t about luck,\u201d Reid adds. \u201cIt\u2019s about work. And the best work we can do is prepare our children for a world that won\u2019t always be kind.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As more experts sound the alarm, the message is clear: true love doesn\u2019t mean removing every obstacle. It means giving children the tools to climb over them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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