Brunette Tshuma<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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In an African culture, a woman’s virginity was and to some extent still is, her pride, a commander of respect and a revealer of character in the society.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Giving respect to both the lady and her parents, a lady’s status at marriage was and maybe still one crucial aspect to be discussed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The disregard of customs which value such virtue in a woman in today’s society, has unfortunately left many households shattered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Desperate to be trusted by their spouses, women have however been met by a sickness unto which they can not offer a cure, the lingering question of;<\/p>\n\n\n\n
“Who broke my wife’s virginity?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
While women swear to never tell, testimonies from married man reveal how this unanswered question remains a bridge between them and their spouses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Proving this and taking chances was one man who decided to liberate himself in a church service<\/p>\n\n\n\n
“Prophet, ini ndoda kuziva kuti akabreaker mudzimai wangu virginity ndiani..chete” asked the man.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I want to know who deflowered my wife<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This uncertainity in man has become a fungus, eating away trust and confidence in many couples, leaving man to cover their mistakes by uttering;<\/p>\n\n\n\n
“NGAKUTHOLA ULIGABHA”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Worsening the situation, is today’s livelihood where sexual intercourse has become nothing more than a” flex”, stripping it of it’s sacredness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A lady’s virginity has been reduced to nothing more than a ” token of appreciation” in many relationships, leaving one to wonder of the later consequences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Young girls are now losing their virginity prematurely, at adolescent stage, turning men’s dreams of ” marrying a virgin” to nothing but a fairytale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Whereas the older generations emphasised this dignifying part of a woman through some cultural rituals, neglegence of such practices have rather came at a greater cost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
“Thina ngesikhathi sethu sasikhangelwa (we were tested) every June. It was disgraceful to be found not a virgin among everyone else, so we were always cautious ” said one woman<\/p>\n\n\n\n
“Omkethu babesihlonipha, behloniphe lezimuli zethu, babuye bazigqaje ngathi phambi kwamanye amadoda ngoba besazi ukuthi unkosikazi uvela lapho okulabantu khona” she continued.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Our husbands would respect us, and respect my clan, they were so proud of us infront of other men<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Unfortunately, little or no respect is now afforded to the in-laws these days, due to this cultural negligence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In fear of being found out or disappointing their promising partners, ladies have rather taken initiative such as creams and herbal medicines which “supposedly” tighten their womanhood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In many cases however, this strategy has proven fatal as trust is broken upon revelation of the cover-up strategy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
“Ungaze wenzeni, kumbe ugcobiseni, once it’s gone, it’s gone. Besides, the experience is never the same so umuntu wakho uyabakwazi and it won’t end well” she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Society has so reduced a woman’s virginity to be rated between “Stupidity and cleverness”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Demmed shameful and evidence that one has not “enjoyed their youth”, many ladies are now ashamed of confessing their status due to the response they get from their peers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They simply indulge in sexual activities, unknowing what they are doing, some follow feminists who have declared that a woman can do whatever they want with their body, some indulge in alcohol to escape the reason they sleep around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Upon marriage also, now it’s rare for the family or society to know of the lady’s status, whereas, past generational cultural practices revealed such information.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A practice which, honoured and appreciated the parents with presents, even of another cow, or dishonored them with a blanket with a hole in the middle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Such practices however kept the generation in check and respectable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a society where for ladies, marriage is on great demand, a lady’s status at marriage remains one deciding factor influencing the condition and duration of the union.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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